Core Value 2: Be Proud of Myself

Each of My Core Values has a subtitle that describes a litmus test by which I can determine success or failure in that area of life. For this one, it is:

Live with integrity, self-awareness, honesty, humility, gratitude.

The New Oxford American Dictionary defines integrity as “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.” Having the root integer, this quality also denotes “a state of being whole and undivided… unified… [a] lack of corruption.” This quality is the bedrock of any chance of being proud of yourself. Any other basis cannot stand the test of time or the strain of silence. Our inner self cannot rest without integrity.

Self-awareness, the conscience awareness of one’s character is required in this pursuit, because it is the means for testing integrity. To exercise self-awareness is to reckon with the core of who we are.

Honesty is an outpouring of integrity. To be free of deceit is to fully disclose and represent what is. It is not necessary to share and disclose all things to all people in order to be proud of one’s self, but it is necessary to disclose all things to yourself. Also, it is necessary to deal fairly and honestly with all people in order to be proud of one’s self.

Humility, or a modest view of one’s importance, is needed in order to rightly see the world and to be proud of one’s self. It takes into account the meager amount of time and influence a person can have and frees a person to truly appreciate what is regarding him-or-herself.

According to The New Oxford American Dictionary gratitude is “the quality of being thankful; [a] readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness”. I include this quality in my list because it is an outpouring of humility and honest dealings. It is an essential element in producing happiness and satisfaction which, without experiencing, I could never be proud of myself.

Core Value 1: [Seek to] Know God as God

Each of My Core Values has a subtitle that describes a litmus test by which I can determine success or failure in that area of life. For this one, it is:

Live a prayer-filled, evangelical, Word-filled life.

Let me quickly break that down. I am convinced about some things about prayer. First, I believe that I should “pray without ceasing… this is the will of Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thes 5) Also, “by prayer… let your requests be made known to God” (Phil 4) Colossians 4 teaches, “Continue steadfastly in prayer.” Jesus teaches, “whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it and it will be yours” (Mark 11) The LORD says, “call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you.” (Jeremiah 29) Paul encourages, “Be constant in prayer” (Romans 12). “When you pray, do not heap up empty phrases” (Matt 6) “The Lord is near to all who call upon Him” (Ps 145) “Where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.” (Matt 18) “When you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.” (Matt 6) “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed.” (James 5) “Pray for those who abuse you” (Luke 6) “Be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers” (1 Peter 4) “pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health as it goes well with your soul” (3 John) “if my people who are called by my name humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin” (2 Chronicles 7). Therefore, prayer is absolutely a good test of whether I am living with the knowledge of God.

Evangelical is rightly defined by the New Oxford American Dictionary as “of or according to the teaching of the gospel or the Christian religion” more specifically, “denoting a tradition within Protestant Christianity emphasizing the authority of the Bible, personal conversion, and the doctrine of salvation by faith in the Atonement.” It is essential that I be evangelical, because otherwise my prayers which would help with the knowledge of God, would be wrongly rooted and I would not know God as God, but rather as I imagined Him to be. Furthermore, it is the gospel and the Christian religion that teaches me how to pray as the gospel records the answer of Jesus to the request, “Lord, teach us to pray” (Luke 11) and it is the Christian religion that stores the knowledge of how to pray in books and treatises on the subject. Last, it is the Holy Spirit which enables prayer and true knowledge of God and comes as a result of personal conversion.

According to The Baptist Faith and Message, 2000: “The Holy Bible was written by men divinely inspired and is God’s revelation of Himself to man. It is a perfect treasure of divine instruction. It has God for its author, salvation for its end, and truth, without any mixture of error, for its matter. Therefore, all Scripture is totally true and trustworthy. It reveals the principles by which God judges us, and therefore is, and will remain to the end of the world, the true center of Christian union, and the supreme standard by which all human conduct, creeds, and religious opinions should be tried. All Scripture is a testimony to Christ, who is Himself the focus of divine revelation.” I affirm this teaching and therefore, must be consuming and studying the Bible if I am to truly be living in the knowledge of God.

My Core Values

 

So, I’m eager to share my current life season’s goals (as part of the prep for my potential schedule), but before I can go there, I need to share with you my core values. This also serves as a response to Notecard 12.10.2016 – Thoughts on Happiness and Purpose. Here’s the content of the card:

  • Happiness is not a second order event premised on something else occurring first. It’s a first order event that happens when you live your truth.
  • The end of man is to glorify God and/by enjoy/enjoying Him forever.
    • God is most glorified in me when I am most satisfied by Him.
  • I suspect a person is happiest when seeking the glory of God.
    • Therefore, to make much of God is to seek my enjoyment and is to fulfill my purpose

The first bullet is from an article discussing a common early retirement mistake.  Basically, Todd Tressider, the author, is suggesting that a lot of people pursue early retirement as a means to avoid a life they do not like, which they have, and acquire a life that they want, but do not have. And this is a mistake if you could make the transition prior to achieving early retirement. I think Todd is right.
We as humans desire happiness and often settle for too little happiness. As C.S. Lewis put it, “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”

The second bullet is taken from the answer to the first question of the Westminster shorter catechism. The subpoint comes from page 18 of John Piper’s Desiring God. I believe both of these are derived correctly from the Bible and are trustworthy truths.

The third bullet is my conclusion. And it’s based on my experience. I enjoy myself most when I am seeking the glory of God. The subpoint is the total conclusion. With those established, here are my core values/desires/pursuits:

  1. [Seek to] Know God as God
  2. Be proud of self
  3. Serve Hayley
  4. Be sought for wisdom/Earn the respect of people
  5. Father children
  6. Serve my family practically
  7. Give children a legacy
  8. Foster positive relationships with friends
  9. Sleep often
  10. Check things off a Bucket List

This short list of ten things is a description of a lifelong pursuit from which my goals flow. These Core Value should never change, even though my life goals will change. Also, I listed them in order of perceived importance. The order may change as I age/mature and my priorities shift.

 

Have you ever composed a list of your core values? If so, why did you? If not, why don’t you – I think you might really enjoy processing and articulating your priorities?